What does the 'perfect' college essay actually look like?
I've been reading a lot of articles and watching YouTube videos lately about what makes a college essay stand out, but everyone's advice seems so different. Some people say to make it super personal, others focus on showing growth or a 'hook'.
Honestly, it's getting a bit overwhelming. Is there even such a thing as a 'perfect' essay, or is it more about being unique to who you are? For those who’ve already submitted or gotten into their top choices, were there certain things you did that you think worked really well? Examples would be great, just so I can get a better idea before I start writing my own drafts.
Honestly, it's getting a bit overwhelming. Is there even such a thing as a 'perfect' essay, or is it more about being unique to who you are? For those who’ve already submitted or gotten into their top choices, were there certain things you did that you think worked really well? Examples would be great, just so I can get a better idea before I start writing my own drafts.
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Caroline Benson
• 6 months ago
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It’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed by the conflicting advice out there — there really isn’t a single formula for a “perfect” college essay. Admissions officers read thousands of essays each year, and the ones that stand out are authentic, vivid, and reflective of the writer’s unique perspective.
One of the most important things is to be genuine. Your essay should sound like you and offer insight into who you are beyond your grades and test scores. This might mean focusing on a quirky hobby, a meaningful relationship, an obstacle you’ve overcome, or a moment that changed your outlook. Whatever you choose, make sure you go deep rather than wide; stay focused on a particular experience or idea rather than trying to cram in everything about yourself.
For example, a student once wrote about a kitchen mishap where she accidentally set off the fire alarm while trying to cook her grandmother’s soup recipe. On the surface, this story was humorous and light, but she used that small incident to talk about the role of family tradition, learning from mistakes, and how she bridged cultural gaps at home. It was memorable because it felt honest and specific.
Another key is to show reflection and growth. Colleges want to see how you make sense of your experiences. If you can articulate what you learned or how you’ve changed because of an event, that can leave a lasting impression. For instance, instead of just describing working at a local animal shelter, someone might zoom in on a moment with a difficult dog, and use that to talk about patience, empathy, or realizing the importance of advocacy.
Finally, try to write in a way that only you could. If someone else could swap in their name and the essay would still make sense, it’s not unique enough. Don’t get hung up on finding a perfect format or style; focus more on your story, your voice, and clear, honest reflection. Often the strongest essays are ones that stay with you because they’re so personal and sincere.
Reading sample essays can help, but don’t feel pressure to mimic someone else’s style. Instead, use those examples for inspiration to figure out what feels most authentic to you. Your story, told truthfully and thoughtfully, is what will ultimately make your application stand out.
One of the most important things is to be genuine. Your essay should sound like you and offer insight into who you are beyond your grades and test scores. This might mean focusing on a quirky hobby, a meaningful relationship, an obstacle you’ve overcome, or a moment that changed your outlook. Whatever you choose, make sure you go deep rather than wide; stay focused on a particular experience or idea rather than trying to cram in everything about yourself.
For example, a student once wrote about a kitchen mishap where she accidentally set off the fire alarm while trying to cook her grandmother’s soup recipe. On the surface, this story was humorous and light, but she used that small incident to talk about the role of family tradition, learning from mistakes, and how she bridged cultural gaps at home. It was memorable because it felt honest and specific.
Another key is to show reflection and growth. Colleges want to see how you make sense of your experiences. If you can articulate what you learned or how you’ve changed because of an event, that can leave a lasting impression. For instance, instead of just describing working at a local animal shelter, someone might zoom in on a moment with a difficult dog, and use that to talk about patience, empathy, or realizing the importance of advocacy.
Finally, try to write in a way that only you could. If someone else could swap in their name and the essay would still make sense, it’s not unique enough. Don’t get hung up on finding a perfect format or style; focus more on your story, your voice, and clear, honest reflection. Often the strongest essays are ones that stay with you because they’re so personal and sincere.
Reading sample essays can help, but don’t feel pressure to mimic someone else’s style. Instead, use those examples for inspiration to figure out what feels most authentic to you. Your story, told truthfully and thoughtfully, is what will ultimately make your application stand out.
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Caroline Benson
Upstate New York
Columbia University (BA); American University in Cairo (MA); Middlebury College (MA)
Experience
9 years